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The secret to making your New Year's resolution a reality

Updated: Mar 16, 2020


At New Year, it’s easy to become swept up in the celebrations and commit to personal change that never quite happens. Then, the guilt sets in. One more promise we made to ourselves (and others) but didn’t keep. So, how can you commit to personal change in way that makes it easy to live up to and delivers the desired result.


It’s that time of year. The time when we reflect on the year that was and how we’d like to be different or do things differently in the year ahead. We’d like to be fitter, spend more time with the family, travel more, go on more holidays. However, saying that we want change and making it happen, are two entirely different things. While statistics vary, they suggest that the success rate of New Year's resolutions is in the order of order of 10 to 20 percent. 


There is plenty of advice regarding how to make your New Year’s resolution stick. Break it down into smaller goals, be specific and make sure it’s realistic. However, much of the advice does not help us deal with the many converging factors that make personal change fail or succeed. 


So, how do you build momentum behind the personal change, regardless of the time of year or whether it relates to work or home? Here are five strategies for you to try this year.


1. Get the Core Right

Take the time to deeply understand the core reason you want a change to happen. The critical word here is ‘you’. It’s not your mother’s, your partner’s or your boss’ reason for the change. It’s yours. It’s the reason that creates energy inside you when you think of it. That’s the energy you need if you are going to power through, as the world around you reinforces the status quo.


This New Year ask yourself questions like:

  • Where is my current path taking me?

  • What does the end of this path look like for me and the people I care about?

  • If I were to take a different path, what would be possible?


For now, don’t worry about what the new path should look like. Just take the time to deeply understand your reason for the change. If you’ve done this and don’t feel a knot of dissatisfaction forming in the pit of your stomach, then I suggest that you reconsider your resolution. Either break it down into something smaller and repeat the process, or find another element of your life in which you want to create meaningful change, then focus on that.


2. Engage Others in Your Quest

I said before, that the world reinforces the status quo, and this applies equally to the expectations and habits of those closest to you. If you want to lose weight but your partner loves cooking unhealthy food, it’s going to increase the challenge. Some questions to consider here are:

  • Who’s help do I need to make this change happen?

  • What role are they playing in reinforcing your current path today?

  • How will shifting the path affect them?


Notice that we still haven’t talked about the new path yet. Engaging others in your reason for change and exploring how they could help you to move away from a path (that they are part of) does three things. First, it says that you value their opinion and gives them an opportunity to help you from the beginning. Second, they can help you define the new path. Third, you will encounter less friction when you behave differently because those around you will ‘get it’.